Deepak Chopra in his Seven Spiritual Laws of Success says that each of us, all seven billion, is here to give. Each of us has a unique talent, a genius caliber offering, that we want to provide to the world, even for free. According to Gary Goldschneider of the Secret Language of Destiny there are 48 karmic paths that cycle through every 20 years or so. Finding Dharma, our life purpose, sounds good but has two big challenges:
1) we don't know what our Dharma is
2) we know what we like to do but we don't got no money.
The definition of Dharma is "Purpose in Life" and again most of us don't know why we are here and just making ends meet or doing our Karma is a full time occupation. When I'm rich or when I retire, I'll get into all that Finding My Dharma razz-ma-tazz.
Deepak taught his kids to meditate at the age of four, so they could discover their genius, what they could do better than anyone on the planet, their Dharma, their purpose in life. Every man and woman at the age of 45 gets a second chance to revisit their childhood, to start over again. Psychologists call this 45-55 period 'Mid-Life Transition' accompanied somewhere in those ten years with a 'Mid-Life Crisis.' On our 45th birthday we get the same cards we were given on our first birthday.
I reached my own Mid'Life Crisis at 48.6 years and under the maxim, "if you want to learn something teach it" taught at Houston's Leisure Learning Unlimited. I started off with topics that I knew something about "What Color Are Your Beliefs" and "Meta-Fiscal Independence," which were clever (at least I thought so) titles for the Organizational Behavior 'Quadrant Theory' teachings, I had received before my Mid-Life Crisis. None other than Carl Jung, the father of analytic psychology, got the Quad Psychometric Testing Industry rolling with Sensing, Intuition, Thinking and Feeling occupying the four squares.
The titans of the sales industry, Xerox, Metropolitan Life and Big Pharma spent millions Psych Testing individuals to discover the 'secret ingredient' personality of a super-salesman. DISC became the main supplier of 'secret ingredient' testing, labeling the four quadrants Dominance, Influence, Steadiness and Compliance.
I extended my License to Practice Architecture to include Psycho-metrics or "What makes people tick." The opening for "What Color Are Your Beliefs?" using the Socratic Method began with the Rhetorical question, "Which color is the sexiest?"
RED: One night stand; GREEN: Problem solvers and sex is problem #1; YELLOW: Socialization, just talking with opposite sex is sexy; BLUE: Sex for all the right reasons.
I fell in love and married Shelby Ann Brown, the first lady that thought Green was the sexiest color. Shelby taught both of us what Finding Dharma was all about through her quest to be a livestock farmer. Shelby carried with her everywhere since high school the un-sexy book, Five Acres to Independence. As a highly paid CPA Systems Analyst our five acres of independence was very codependent on Shelby not quitting her day job. Three years after Stav, my Greek-Cypriot, Breath-Integration Therapist, challenged Shelby to give up her $85/hr job, we had equaled both of our yuppie salaries.
I became a widower the following year and no longer a Dharma follower. I was now overwhelmed by my sole proprietor responsibilities for 100 goats, 20 sheep, 60 laying hens, two horses, 3 milk cows, 40 rabbits, six livestock guard dogs and two full time employees. I was more interested in Finding My Way Out than Finding My Own Dharma.
Fate, destiny, desperation and search for RED>GREEN>YELLOW>BLUE love, led me to Eugene, OR population 166,575 where I swear all 166,575 are looking for their Dharma. Example: I met this third generation hippie, his grandfather emigrated from Berkeley, whose goal was to join the circus.
I was unsuccessful in every color of love but found out why I wasn't anywhere close to finding my Dharma, in the pages of Gary Goldschneider's The Secret Language of Destiny. The Infinite Organizing Power of the Universe chose the #43 Karmic Path for me at birth but now at 64 I just got to read it for the first time:
"The life purpose of the individuals on the Way of Resolve is to learn how to face any challenge or problem without backing down. To accomplish this task, those on this karmic path must develop the ability to set their resolve and make a commitment. These individuals are often multifaceted, and on the surface life seems to come easily to them. However, they tend to lack resolve and prefer to take the path of least resistance."
Taking care of all those damn goats was definitely blocking my path of least resistance, but did that mean I had to stay down on the farm? No, I had set my resolve and make a commitment. Oh no, finding Dharma is about doing what you least want to do but in your heart you know you should do it. A New Yorker, I met at an AA meeting in Hong Kong, said it all, "Men want a mommy with sex privileges."
Struggling with this Resolve-Commitment conundrum, my Higher Power put a copy of Robert Lee Camp's Cards of Your Destiny in my basket at Borders, remember them? Camp's ordinary playing cards explain the hocus-pocus of astrology in a language even an architect like me can understand. I'm the JACK of Clubs and here is my 100% correlation psychometric quad:
Clubs - Mind - Communication – Intelligence
Jack of Clubs - Mental Inspiration
Karma for the Jack of Clubs - Fear of Established Wisdom
There's my problem, I got no Spades in the Spade quadrant. I got no 'D's for Dominance on the DISC test. I think YELLOW is the sexiest color. Why I got fired three times from my sales jobs, they wanted 'Closers' not Dreamers. Each year in the United States there are at least 10,000 people born on September 13th at 5% of the world's population that's 200,000 new 's looking for Dharma someday - probably around age forty-five. All those babies got the #44 Karmic Path: The Way of Confidence - The Way of Confidence calls those born to it, to develop the self-acceptance and self-assurance needed to step into the public spotlight and become leaders. May they all take inspiration from September 18,
1961 James Gandolfini who trod the Way of Confidence to eight years as Tony Soprano.
"Do your Karma and Dharma will take care of itself," is the authentic Indian saying on Dharma, so I took renewed interest in the Karma for each of the fifty-two cards. What does mine and all twelve JACK of Clubs, January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, October, November, December and not just September mean? Karma for the Jack of Clubs - Fear of Established Wisdom is best illustrated by the kinder, gentler January 29th Oprah and the in your face April 23rd Michael Moore.
However, the Bigley that Robert Camp has presented to mankind is the future outcome for each cardholder from birth to age 99. Personally it enables me to call myself a Fortuneteller, even though astrology, numerology, Tarot and palm-reading escape me.